Grateful for the Memories

Find them in all the good places and things.

Not everyone is meant to stay in our lives forever. That doesn’t mean that they are not good or that we are not good. It’s just the natural progression of our lives and there doesn’t have to be a rhyme or reason to it. Sometimes we simply just outgrow each other or go in different directions. Sometimes it might feel better to have a space of bitterness and resentment because it feels safer and maybe easier. Maybe it’s a trauma response, I don’t know. Maybe that’s just what we’ve been taught. Maybe it’s just what we know.

When someone is no longer in our lives, they feel so far away. It can feel sad and it can also feel better than having them in our lives. Either way, it doesn’t mean that what we feel for them needs to be negative to justify why they aren’t there anymore. We can think about them with fondness. Memories can be triggered by things that we see or smell and we can enjoy remembering everything we loved about them. We can live in that space instead, where we remember all of the goodness and strength and wish them well…sending them love.

When memories of past friends and family come up, be grateful for them. Try not to think of the negative aspects of them or the situation surrounding your relationship. Just think about the good times. We’ve already learned from the negative aspects. It’s time to let them go. Let the bad memories and feelings fade and hold on to all the good that exists in their memory. Breathe in the good shit. Breathe out the bullshit.

With Love,

Leticia Rae